How to Write Heartfelt Wedding Vows
Meet our Guest Blogger: Daniela DeFeo of DeeVita Celebrations is a licensed Wedding Officiant, nationally published writer and vow speech writer. With her experience officiating weddings, as a certified events planner and published writer, you can be confident in knowing your ceremony will be handled with finesse.
If writing your own personal wedding vows has got you tongue-tied, these essential tips are sure to get your creative juices flowing.
Memory Lane
One of the easiest places to kick-start your writing journey is to take a trip down memory lane. Whether you’re digging out photos, watching videos, reading old cards or love letters, this may help to revive those times together that made you feel all good inside. Was there memorable trip that opened your eyes to the excitement you felt being with him or her? A birthday celebration where they made you feel like a king or queen for the day? Or, simply a sweet message that melted your heart. You’ll be surprised at how going back in time can stir up emotions and feelings that will get your pen moving.
Ups and Downs
Think about what makes your relationship special – through good times and bad. Although many get absorbed with the notion that vows only need to be a reflection of the best times, including those tough ones too, can make it more meaningful. Reflecting on times of challenge and how you both pulled through, often times, is what makes a relationship stronger and a testament to your love and commitment to each other. And of course, everyone loves to hear a good story too!
Share personal moments of happiness and quirks of your significant other that family and friends would otherwise not know about. There is a no-better time to open the blinds to your love story and shed some light on what makes this person, your chosen one.
“You Complete Me”
Undoubtedly, one of the most memorable love quotes from the movie Jerry Maguire, as he is professing his love for Dorothy. Movies, TV shows, books and songs are a great sources of inspiration when putting pen to paper. If there is a quote or song verse that pulls at your heart strings, why not reference it in your own vows?
Alternatively, if you want to truly make it your own, observe these romantic words, take some cues and turn it into your own love language. Sometimes, when you’re writing the way you would truly speak, it comes across as being more genuine and will be much easier to deliver your promises, without a hitch.
Ask and You Shall Receive
Have a conversation with your partner. This may seem counter-intuitive, but don’t shy away from it – it’s not like you’re cheating on a test. Who better to reminisce on your relationship and what makes it jive, then the person you’ve chosen to spend the rest of your life with.
They’re probably going through the same pressure so having an open dialogue about the things you’ve done, what you love about each other may spark some inspo to get writing. And if you’re looking for even more inspiration, chat with a close family member or friend. You may be pleasantly surprised at how they view your relationship, which may give you a different perspective when drafting your heartfelt promises.
S.O.S.
Help is near if you’re finding it difficult to articulate your feelings into words. One option is to speak with a wedding officiant. Most times, their experience with officiating ceremonies and personalizing scripts will aid in working through your writer’s block. They may have several vow examples that you can peruse to get the wheels in motion in crafting something that is reflective of your tone and love message. If the struggle is becoming too real, then you might want to consider a vow-writing service. They can take over the heavy lifting and alleviate the stress by working one-on-one with you to understand your goals, voice and personality to draft a heartfelt vow speech that comes from your heart.
Writing your personal wedding vows can seem intimidating, at first. With a little guidance from industry professionals, chatting with loved ones, reminiscing on your relationship or pulling out a Kleenex box to watch your fav wedding movie scene, can stimulate those creative juices to deliver vows that will truly steal your partner’s heart.
